There's lots of reasons why a couple could be unhappy. Do you notice that the same stuff repeats itself over and over? There's a reason for that. It's not because people are "insane" - meaning they keep doing the same thing expecting a different result. Not at all....

The prevailing wisdom is that if someone is a narcissist, they cannot change so you have to leave them. And you have total proof because YOUR narcissist did not change. You ranted. You raved. You ignored. You threatened. You're sorry to say you even had an affair. And...

You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You're a good person. No reason whatever for...

Isn't it nice to go to someone who really listens? I mean after trying and trying to get through to your spouse - for years - to finally have the therapist sit there calmly and patiently listening, isn't that wonderful? And then they get it. They understand. OMG that...

The answer is zero. Why do I say that? Because the unwritten rule in therapy is that you don't have to accomplish anything. There is no guarantee that you'll get "there." In fact, neither one of you knows where "there" is. I know. I did that for years. True...

Leave An Abuser! Run! Should I Listen To The Advice Everyone's Giving Me To Leave My Abusive Spouse? You don't know what to do. It's happened again. You've gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of that...

Not always, but mostly, the burden of change in the marriage falls on the man. Why is that? Statistically, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. That's a phenomenal number. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, "happy wife, happy life." Do men have...

Eva walks in the door and Tom, her husband, barely looks at her, barely speaks to her. Tom is stealing Eva's happiness. Why? Why would he do that? He'll tell you that he's not happy. He'll tell you that Eva is the problem, the reason. He'll tell you that he can't...

I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people - even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn't it work? Well, if you've been in therapy, check and see if this is what it was...

I was on the phone with a woman who was desperate to fix her marriage and my heart broke for her. But I knew I would not be helping her. She started off telling me the names her husband called her and then I was thinking, "I work with verbal abusers; no problem." She...