I once was interning to acquire the number of hours necessary for my license. I met with a particular family. They were really lovely people. Okay, they would fight. Okay, they didn't seem to know how to get out of the spiral they were in. I get that. Not everyone...

How To Overcome Abuse, Cheating, and Neglect I would like to share with you a compliment I got recently. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they...

How To Overcome Abuse, Cheating, and Neglect I would like to share with you a compliment I got recently. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they...

I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people - even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn't it work? Well, if you've been in therapy, check and see if this is what it was...

Isn't it nice to go to someone who really listens? I mean after trying and trying to get through to your spouse - for years - to finally have the therapist sit there calmly and patiently listening, isn't that wonderful? And then they get it. They understand. OMG that...

How To Wipe Out Destructive Patterns "How long is this going to go on?  This is ridiculous! I've told him not once but a thousand times. I won't take it any-more! It's got to stop." It doesn't matter "what" has got to stop. It could be fighting, blaming, cheating,...

You know the story of the guy who was abusive, had a temper, was controlling and demanding, got divorced because of all that and managed to keep it together long enough for a new girl to fall in love with him; and of course she never saw a hint of all the rotten...

Eva walks in the door and Tom, her husband, barely looks at her, barely speaks to her.  Tom is stealing Eva's happiness. Why? Why would he do that? He'll tell you that he's not happy. He'll tell you that Eva is the problem, the reason. He'll tell you that he can't...

The answer is zero. Why do I say that? Because the unwritten rule in therapy is that you don't have to accomplish anything. There is no guarantee that you'll get "there." In fact, neither one of you knows where "there" is.  I know. I did that for years. True...

Maybe Some People Change, Just Not My Spouse Hey Spouse, It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away, right? Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn't have free choice. So...