WHAT IF YOU COULD CHANGE YOUR EMOTIONS AT WILL?
You're feeling like garbage. And you've been feeling that way all week. What if you had a mechanism to turn that around in about a minute? You're feeling so angry you are nearly spitting. What if that anger didn't actually have to be a part of you and you could get...
HOW I RECLAIMED MY LIFE
Tonight, I'm going to do my usual Thursday Livestream in my Facebook group. It's *seriously important* that you get a bowl of popcorn, AND your notepad and watch. Why? Because we all go around miserable. Or depressed. Or angry. Or disgusted. Or something else that's...
HOW I TURN MARRIAGES AROUND
Sherry and Tim were skeptical. Who was this DrDeb anyway? How come she thinks she can turn marriages around? Sherry and Tim were fighting every day. They didn't mean to. They didn't want to. But somehow, something always happened and they just . . . did. They did...
THE PROBLEMS WITH DIY
I am a great baker. That is, I like to bake: mouth-watering chocolate chip cookies, apple cake, cheese cakes, and lots more. That said, I'm not an expert. It's just my fun thing. Especially since I love eating…. But one of the things I noticed is that if you're not an...
DEALING WITH A SPOUSE WHO SAYS THEY CAN’T CHANGE?
Have they said things like - "This is who I am." Or "I can't change." Or "You should love me with my bad parts too." Well, they do have their reasons. Old reasons from the hurts in their life. Like for instance, they might believe - "Good things happen to other...
My Anxiety Is Gone And I’m Happy Again
CASE STUDY #3: Her Anxiety Is Gone Even Though Her Husband Is Too Here's what Alexandra had to say about working with me: "I've been in Tx for 20 years. Nothing got accomplished. They would ask, 'What do you think you should do?' and I'm like, 'No, that's why I'm...
Part 2 – It’s More Than Communication
Here are two more reasons "communication" is not the answer to marriage problems. Reason #3: Emotional Impoverishment How many times do annoyed parents say, "Stop carrying on!" "Be a man!" "Don't be a crybaby!" It gets worse when the kids get older, "I wish you were...
Why You Need More Than Communication Skills
"We just can't communicate," Alice complained. Victor was staring at a spot on the ceiling. He was not comfortable at all. And the worst part of this scene is that Terra, the therapist, will not be able to help. The reason? Although Alice thinks the problem is...
Case Study: How A Young Couple Fell Back In Love
How a Young Couple Fell Back In Love Even With Violent, Rejecting, Unsupportive, and Dismissive Parents Leslie and Gregory were a young couple who came to me in despair. Not only did they offer up the usual "we can't communicate" but there was screaming, crying, or...
Your Marriage Can Be Your Opportunity
Marriage is either an opportunity or a bludgeon, beating to death everything that is you: When it's an opportunity, there's a give and take that is so awesome, it's breathtaking. Both people get to thrive and grow and become who they were meant to be. They're...