How Juxtaposition Can Speed Your Healing
Bruce Ecker, the creator of a tool for therapy called Juxtaposition, is a therapist. But he wasn't always. From a desire to understand how the Universe works, he became a physicist. After decades of that, he realized it wasn't answering his questions, so he turned to...
If IFS Is So Good, Why Does LYLYM Also Teach Affirmations?
Let's get some definitions on the table first. IFS = Internal Family Systems, a method of therapy created by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz which is brilliant to the nth degree. This method of therapy says that you are not bad and even the parts of you - the moods you get...
How To Make Excellent, Aligned Decisions
⭐️ "Yup, that's what I'm doing," I told my son. I was kind of surprised as the words came out of my mouth. This was a huge personal decision, a lifetime dream. ⭐️ When I grew up, got married, had kids, went back to school, time just...
What Did Sue Johnson Miss?
Like John Gottman, Sue Johnson is well known for her work with couples, and unlike Gottman, she focuses on emotions, the very building blocks of all behavior. So what's the problem? Oh, there's a big one. Let me ask you a question: Why do people act in ways that are...
What Did John Gottman Miss?
If you've never heard this name, he's good folks; he contributed a lot to understanding how couples can get along better. But the reality of life is that we build on the greats that came before us and then add some. That's what Dr. Richard C. Schwartz did. Gottman...
Therapist Abuse?
John Gottman is a long-standing researcher of what makes marriages work - or more accurately, fail. I'm thinking it was about 40 years ago that he created the Love Lab at the University of Washington. He advertised for volunteer couples to spend a weekend there....
Why Everyone On This Team Is The Answer: Part II
This is the second half of the very long post that is really, "Why Everyone on My Team Is YOUR Answer," that I started on Monday. These are the rest of the Core Values of the Love Yourself Love Your Marriage program and ONLY people who are totally aligned with them...
What Is Self-to-Self Communication?
Let's start with this: NEW TIME!! For today only, our live will be at 12:30 noon Eastern time and not at night at all. Remember that! Next week, I don't know because I'll be in a different time zone on vacation - but I will do your live! The following week, get ready...
Why Everyone On This Team Is The Answer: Part I
Really, I want to say, "Why Everyone on My Team Is YOUR Answer," but I also want to give people here room to raise doubts, question, and be cautious. I think caution is the exact correct thing given what so many people here have been through. On the other hand, I want...
Why They Won’t Go To Counseling
They refuse to go. They're "not interested." They "don't need it." "Nothing is wrong." "You're the problem." Grrrr. Frustrating, right? Tonight, you're going to learn the secret sauce to get them to counseling. You're also going to learn exactly what is going on...