Deb Hirschhorn

Attraction: What If Two Victims of Abuse Marry Each Other?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

People can be verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused; there’s also exposure to substance abuse, borderline disorder, post traumatic stress, and there’s more too. An abused person could become both a victim (say of a spouse or boss at work)...

What Is The Job of A Soulmate?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships

If you have wandered around this website, you will notice that there are links to a bunch of other websites all of which represent possible results of having been verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused: substance abuse, borderline disorder, post...

I Call it Verbal Abuse; You Call it No Big Deal

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

So you are thinking that what I am calling verbal abuse is really no big deal? Let’s see. Here are some questions you might ask: What’s wrong with verbal abuse, specifically, name calling? Why can’t people just take a joke anyway? And here’s...

Emotional Abuse & Power in Relationships

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

Have you ever thought about who in your family is in charge and how they got that way? When that person speaks, others listen. You might say that this item is political. Who has the power? Who gets to decide what happens? Who decides what is said, to whom, and when?...

Real Passion Comes From Spiritual Connection

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships

The main idea in marriage counseling is not about “communication,” although that could be part of it. The main idea is not about behaving right (like helping in the house), although that’s certainly a part of it. The main idea is not about thoughts...

Don’t Play Victim in Your Marriage

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2002 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse

Don’t rush to get hurt feelings–Stay away from playing the victim in your relationship. Ask yourself one, two, three, four, even five times: Did she really mean to hurt me? Because if your spouse, lover, friend did not really mean it, you can choose not to...

You’ve Seen the Lawyer? Now See the Marriage Counselor

by Deb Hirschhorn | Nov 6, 2002 | Marriage and Relationships

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p.13 If you really want a good divorce, see a marriage counselor first. There was a case in Broward County, FL some years ago that had the dubious honor of being the longest running case in county history. I knew...

Denial: Do You Do That?

by Deb Hirschhorn | Jul 1, 2002 | Mental Health

REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, p. 25 Human consciousness is a marvelous thing. It is more flexible than a yogi. For example: You are in a lecture that is definitely not going anywhere. You could be bored out of your mind, but lo and behold, your...

Holistic Psychotherapy: A Different Way of Viewing Problems