by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 28, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
If you have wandered around this website, you will notice that there are links to a bunch of other websites all of which represent possible results of having been verbally, emotionally, sexually, or physically abused: substance abuse, borderline disorder, post...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
So you are thinking that what I am calling verbal abuse is really no big deal? Let’s see. Here are some questions you might ask: What’s wrong with verbal abuse, specifically, name calling? Why can’t people just take a joke anyway? And here’s...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Have you ever thought about who in your family is in charge and how they got that way? When that person speaks, others listen. You might say that this item is political. Who has the power? Who gets to decide what happens? Who decides what is said, to whom, and when?...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2003 | Marriage and Relationships
The main idea in marriage counseling is not about “communication,” although that could be part of it. The main idea is not about behaving right (like helping in the house), although that’s certainly a part of it. The main idea is not about thoughts...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2002 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Don’t rush to get hurt feelings–Stay away from playing the victim in your relationship. Ask yourself one, two, three, four, even five times: Did she really mean to hurt me? Because if your spouse, lover, friend did not really mean it, you can choose not to...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 6, 2002 | Marriage and Relationships
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p.13 If you really want a good divorce, see a marriage counselor first. There was a case in Broward County, FL some years ago that had the dubious honor of being the longest running case in county history. I knew...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 1, 2002 | Mental Health
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, p. 25 Human consciousness is a marvelous thing. It is more flexible than a yogi. For example: You are in a lecture that is definitely not going anywhere. You could be bored out of your mind, but lo and behold, your...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jul 1, 2002 | Mental Health
REPRINTED BY PERMISSION from Natural Awakenings, pp. 14, 15, 19 She walked into my office, a picture of personal torment. Hounded by memories of unspeakable things, involved in one bad relationship after another, and hating herself more by the minute, she could easily...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | May 29, 2002 | Mental Health
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from The Jewish Star Times, p. 19 I first encountered Attention Deficit Disorder when my third child was born. That was 17 years ago and it went undiagnosed. He exhibited signs which, in retrospect, were classic indicators. At age two, a...
