by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 16, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
There’s lots of reasons why a couple could be unhappy. Do you notice that the same stuff repeats itself over and over? There’s a reason for that. It’s not because people are “insane” – meaning they keep doing the same thing...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 13, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
Why would someone say that? Why would they be so dead set against seeing that the person they were married to could change? Here’s my theory: Research says that we make decisions and THEN we come up with reasons for them! That’s called rationalization....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 7, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
The story of Impatience-In-Therapy. Like, he or she is hurting you by bringing up a sore topic. Or by not paying attention to you, not putting you first. Or by flirting too much. Or by spending too much. Whatever it is, you’ve told them and told them and told...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 4, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
Today I wanted you to understand what I stand for. It’s more than “saving a marriage.” I want you to be happy. I believe that everyone should be happy. Now, right away, you can jump on this and say, “Wait a minute, what about people in misery,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 30, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
Of course. Who wants to keep doing what you’ve been doing, whatever it is – coldness or the other extreme, fighting? Who wants to keep reminding someone of what you want and need and not get heard? I get that. Sick of getting up in the morning and looking...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 24, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
I do get their feelings. Right now they are sick and tired of something that you’re doing or have done. Maybe they’re sick of the same annoying irritating tone of voice that you give every time you bring up something that’s important to them. I get...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 24, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
What GETTING THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT Stands For Well you may as well know: I’m old fashioned. I believe in marriage. That does NOT mean I believe in suffering! Obviously, I wouldn’t EVER tell a couple, “Just get used to it” or “You’re...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 20, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
Hey, DrDeb, that’s a great question. What would YOU do for me that others can’t? Or don’t? Here is what you want and what I will deliver: * You want to know what is the problem anyway? Why do we keep going round and round and getting nowhere?*...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 17, 2018 | Marriage and Relationships
MYTH: People Don’t Change!! Yes they do. You know it; you’ve done it. You’re not the same person you were before your marriage, right? You’re a little wiser. Maybe you’re also a little more hurt? Or a lot more? But you know you’ve...
