by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 29, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
No. They’re not. They are regular people who did not learn. Are yu going to argue with me? Do you think they certainly were told but they didn’t want to listen? I will prove to you that that is not accurate. Come with me…. We’re going to take a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 25, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Suppose a client walks into a therapist’s office every week for a month and each time, he has a spot on his shirt. He is down and out, looking for a job and can’t get one. Should the therapist: a. tell him flat out that he has spots on his clothes? b....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 22, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Coaching isn’t about feelings. That’s what I used to think. That is, until I put together my own coaching program. Which clearly focuses on feelings. How could it not? Feelings run the world! Politics is all about feelings. Love and marriage – of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 18, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I always have this mental picture when I hear that someone went to “anger management” – a picture of someone gritting their teeth, panting, and trying their hardest to “control” themselves from bursting out in a fit of rage. Fingernails...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 15, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Therapists have given out way too many bandaids. Here are examples of bandaids: books articles listening forever and saying, “Awww” to complaints and problems How many of these have actually created changes in the reader, listener, or participant? Changes...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 11, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I’m not going to mince words. The answer is that if you THINK you love someone else more than yourself, it’s not love in the first place. You didn’t love them that much and you surely didn’t love yourself that much either. Why? Why do I say...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 9, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
This guy was pretty unhappy. He said he didn’t want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible “D” word was uttered. As we were going through the call...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 8, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I myself used to subscribe to this myth. After all, I was a marriage counselor. How do you do marriage counseling with only one person?? That was until, we’ll call him Joey, came to see me, insisting that his wife wanted no part of therapy. We worked slowly...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 1, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
There was this guy who would not look at me. He sat in our session with his arms crossed, looking elsewhere. He admitted he was “irritated.” His wife was sitting there in tears, and through her tears, she said, “This is what it’s like for me!...
