by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Oct 4, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I would like to share with you a compliment I got recently. I never know what people are thinking until you tell me, and I was very touched by this compliment. I asked this individual why they reached out to me and they said something like, “You have a way...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 29, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Should I Listen To The Advice Everyone’s Giving Me To Leave My Abusive Spouse? You don’t know what to do. It’s happened again. You’ve gotten yelled at. Made fun of. Put down. Name-called. Gotten eyeballs rolled. Threatened. Even a little of...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 25, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
You are sick and tired of this. Sick of him not being home. Sick of his lies. Sick of the distance, the disconnection. Sick of putting up with feeling second class, unimportant. You cannot tolerate it. And why should you? You’re a good person. No reason whatever...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 22, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Isn’t it nice to go to someone who really listens? I mean after trying and trying to get through to your spouse – for years – to finally have the therapist sit there calmly and patiently listening, isn’t that wonderful? And then they get it....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 18, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
How long is this going to go on? This is ridiculous! I’ve told him not once but a thousand times. I won’t take it any-more! It’s got to stop. It doesn’t matter “what” has got to stop. It could be fighting, blaming, cheating,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 15, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
I absolutely hate being negative because I believe in people – even therapists. But I keep hearing how people argue in the therapy room and go out no better than they came in. Why doesn’t it work? Well, if you’ve been in therapy, check and see if...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 11, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Not always, but mostly, the burden of change in the marriage falls on the man. Why is that? Statistically, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. That’s a phenomenal number. Why is that? It seems that the old saying is true, “happy wife, happy...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 8, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Eva walks in the door and Tom, her husband, barely looks at her, barely speaks to her. Tom is stealing Eva’s happiness. Why? Why would he do that? He’ll tell you that he’s not happy. He’ll tell you that Eva is the problem, the reason....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Sep 4, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
The answer is zero. Why do I say that? Because the unwritten rule in therapy is that you don’t have to accomplish anything. There is no guarantee that you’ll get “there.” In fact, neither one of you knows where “there” is. I know. I...
