by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 5, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“Maybe it’s the Fighting Irish in me,” Kelly said with an engaging smile, “but to answer your question, I prefer to get angry than to be civil and work assertively with someone who is bothering me.” Well, that was honest. Kelly came from a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 3, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I was reading Steven Stosny the other day and he said something profound. He has been working for decades on helping people who’ve been not merely angry, but sometimes enraged, to feel compassion. This is no easy matter because highly angry people often...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Mar 2, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Kim would work himself up into such a frenzy that he spit. When he was on a tirade, nothing could stop him. Even himself. The “himself” is the saddest part of this because in his quiet moments he hated his anger and he hated himself for it, but he could...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 26, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Mike was pretty unhappy. He said he didn’t want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible “D” word was uttered. As we were going through the call and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 23, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another – alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, cutting, purging, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 17, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
This is for you. Yes, for you if you think that you’re fine and the only person that needs help from me with the marriage is your spouse. It’s true, your spouse has lied/cheated/neglected/been addicted/been mean…. So you’re HALF right. Yes,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 16, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
“I’m so scared. I feel like I just got thrown off a cliff. I’m in free-fall and I do not know if I will land at all or be crushed to death when I do. This is crazy. Topsy-turvy. OMG.” Okay. I get it. Your world has turned upside down. Breathe....
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 12, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
I always have this mental picture when I hear that someone went to “anger management” – a picture of someone gritting their teeth, panting, and trying their hardest to “control” themselves from bursting out in a fit of rage. Fingernails...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Feb 9, 2021 | Marriage and Relationships
Sex is the Gold Standard of a well-oiled, functioning, happy, content marriage. Or it should be. And so, for that reason, everyone wants it. It feels wonderful when it feels wonderful. But when it doesn’t….. It’s two strangers trying to connect and...
