by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 11, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Sam walked in the door, thinking about Rob. “Really,” he thought, “Rob has a lot of nerve. Who does he think he is, anyway? First he tells me not to negotiate with Merryweather and then he goes behind my back and does exactly that?” Sam had a...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 9, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Wait! Don’t leave! I can see rolled eyeballs. But the people rolling them are the ones who need this most. Why do I say that? Because those are the people (usually the men) that our society robbed of their emotions. It’s not their fault. And it’s...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 4, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
If you’re new to this group, that title is certainly confusing. Don’t worry! My livestream on Thursday will dig deep into what parts are, what Self energy is, and the rest of what IFS (Internal Family Systems) is about. But for now, the simple explanation...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 2, 2023 | Marriage and Relationships
Someone said something recently that was all about Dreams. And all about how this new year could be for them – if they would permit it. Like most of the couples searching for answers in this group, they’d been married 20 years. And, like most of the...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 28, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
No. It doesn’t. You are stuck forever in taming the overburdened parts that pop up unexpectedly. So where’s the good news? The good news is it doesn’t bother you any-more. In fact, it turns the problem into a gem. The more Self energy you bring to...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 21, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
I can hear someone out there muttering, “Boy, she’s going off topic! I thought this was a group about Loving Yourself and Loving Your Marriage.” Well, yes, kind of it is off topic. And then again, it’s not. To love yourself means to love your...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 30, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
What would it be like to hear someone near and dear to you criticizing you . . . . . . and not be bothered by it? Maybe be concerned for them? Like, what’s bothering them that they have to do this? And feel your heart open to them with compassion? What would...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 28, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
This is the third in a series. This all started with a live that I did a few weeks ago that was kinda rushed so I decided to elaborate a bit more in posts. 8. Has Tools But Doesn’t Impose Them Why not? If the therapist thinks they’re good for you,...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 23, 2022 | Marriage and Relationships
For the first 3 qualities of a Great Therapist, see previous post. (Part 1) 4. Wisdom My definition of Wisdom is the ability to know what to say and do and what not to in each moment. If that’s hard, I agree. It’s built on three things: #1. experience....
