What’s Covert Abuse: 16 Examples
That weird feeling you get – maybe it’s in the pit of your stomach, or maybe it’s like a choking in your throat, or a suffocating feeling like you can’t breathe – but it’s a feeling that something just went wrong. Really wrong. Yet, you can’t pinpoint it. You try....
What To Do About The Small Slights That Hurt So Much (Situation #17)
With all the therapy that Cheryl has already had, you would think that the rejection of her pot luck offers would be no big deal, but that was not the case. Why? Why is it that small things turn into big things? And most important, how do we stop doing that to...
Why Anxiety is Nearly Synonymous With Abuse
"What? You’re saying because I’m anxious, I’m abusive?” “Are you kidding?” Cindy asked me, curling a tissue in her hand. “You’re blaming me for being anxious when my kids are terrible?” Of course, I didn’t actually say anything. These are just the thoughts going...
Perfectionism’s Fatal Attraction
I'm now releasing #16 of the Marriage Situations Playlist, Perfectionism's Fatal Attraction. See, you thought, maybe, that being a perfectionist is tough because you have to be perfect? Nah, that's not at all the worst part. Watch the video to understand the real...
Two Steps You Must Take When Your Partner Is Not Meeting Your Needs
No, it’s not “Tell them” – because they don’t listen. And no, it’s not “Divorce them” because guess what? – if you’re divorced they sure as heck won’t be meeting your needs. AND research shows that even if you re-marry, you will still feel resentful of the first...
Is He B.S.-ing His Therapist? How You Can Tell (Situation #14)
Cheryl's fear of abandonment may be keeping her in an abusive marriage unless she can learn how to tell if he is really changing or just putting on a good show. Find out the specifics she learns in order to know....
Why People Are In Denial and How To Stop Them
Someone in my Facebook group asked, “How come people will say they have no issues and their childhood was great, yet they create marital problems that do not exist?” Ha! Funny, right? That is classic denial. Of COURSE they had a problemmatic childhood. No, it was not...
Why We Self-Sabotage And How To Stop (Situation #13)
Self-sabotage is a part, but more importantly, it's a protector. Well, how can it protect by sabotaging? Watch the video to find out how it's trying to protect and how to outsmart it....
Getting Over Limerence (Needy Love) and Replacing It
It is SOOO frustrating. There you are, helpless, while you watch someone you love and care about go down the rathole. And there is nothing, absolutely nothing, you can do. Or at least, that is what you were thinking. But there is actually one thing. We’re talking...
Molly Turns People Pleasing Into Her Biggest Power (Situation #12)
You, too, can unleash your hidden powers. Molly was "just" a people pleaser but she turned it into her personal powerhouse. How? The secret is in what motivates the people pleasing. Please watch the 12th video in this serial playlist!...