by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jun 10, 2013 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Dear Dr. Deb, I have been following your columns for a while now and I have to say, they are a little bit “fluffy.” I don’t mean to be rude, but you make everything come out so easy, as if all problems can be solved in the course of one column. And life just isn’t so...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Apr 12, 2012 | Marriage and Relationships
It’s amazing how many people can’t seem to apologize. Here are some reason that this might happen: They grew up in homes where people were blamed whenever things went wrong. Therefore, apologizing is not only an admission that they did something wrong—which they...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Nov 24, 2006 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
We were making progress, this new couple and I. Eli was getting it. He realized that his sarcastic remarks, his put-downs, his glares, and his barely-controlled anger all constitute verbal abuse. He was starting to work effectively with his tools, too. He had...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 18, 2006 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
REPRINTED WITH PERMISSION from the Florida Jewish Journal, p. 14 “It’s your fault!” Robbie screamed. “Do you understand what you did? Do you understand what a terrible loss this means?” His screams filled the air with a sick heaviness, a light and bright afternoon...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Aug 16, 2003 | Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Nothing drills down another person’s happiness like constant blame. “The sun rose so it’s your fault. There was an earthquake on the other side of the world, so, again, it’s your fault. Everything is your fault. In fact, I don’t know why...
