“Something comes over me, I don’t know, and I see red when she asks me if I took care of bills/garbage/junior’s homework/whatever”
“I was in a perfectly good mood, walking down the street and this song came on and I burst into tears.”
“I really needed help and I was sick and tired of taking care of arguments with my children’s teachers so I made him make the call, but while he was talking, I started laughing.”
“My boss showed me the stats for the month and I felt sick to my stomach. I wanted so badly right then to go out and get a drink.”
“She was talking about this terrible thing and instead of empathizing, I went numb.”
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Every one of these is an example of being triggered in one way or another.
It happens to all of us from time to time. Yes, even to me. (I’ll tell you that story on the webinar tonight.)
But the question is why?
And more importantly, how can we tame them?
While I’m at it, let me add a couple more questions –
Why doesn’t talking to a sympathetic therapist work?
Why doesn’t CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) work?
Why don’t anger and shaming work?
In fact, why, exactly do they backfire? Badly.
And if all of the conventional methods don’t work, what does?
And why?
Why would this other method, called IFS, work? What is the process that makes it so powerful?
Someone said to me today that he could make changes but then that could backslide. I told him, not with me. Remember that picture that you can see two ways? Once you see both ways, you can’t not see it. Once you learn to ride a bike, it’s imprinted into your brain and your muscles forever. That’s how this system works.
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