Live! Don’t Bother Me With The Facts
“Caroline did not mean to insult you!” Nancy said about their daughter. “I know this to be true because she told me herself. She’s a good girl, the best!” “Yeah, well, why didn’t she apologize then?” William demanded. “You wouldn’t speak to her! How could she...
When Failure Is A Good Thing
Getting Clarity in muddy waters is not easy. But to gain the power of Self Engery, you need that clarity. How do you get it? The first step is to not shy away from "trying" things that may seem difficult or out of reach because if you fail, you're in luck! Then you...
One Surprising Way To Get Past Your Limiting Beliefs
"I know I can stand up for myself. I know exactly what to say. I’ve practiced it in front of the mirror a thousand times!” Carrie said. “But when it comes to actually doing it, something stops me,” she added, sighing. In this made-up example, I’m the therapist, and I...
Watch Out! These Are Uber-Powerful (ep 7)
We're adding two more super-pwers to the YouTube playlist on my channel in this video - they give you the way that you can express your authentic Self in spite of the obstacles.
I DO NOT Want To Revisit My Past!
“DrDeb, I had a happy childhood so there’s no need to waste time and money in therapy going back there!” That’s one thing I’ll hear quite a bit. Here’s another one: “My past was very painful. I don’t want to relive it, so no, I don’t want the kind of therapy that has...
How To Strengthen Your Relationship Even When Your Partner Isn’t Changing
“DrDeb, I know what you’re going to tell me. You’re going to say I have to be nice, be good, and then my partner will react differently. Well, I’ve tried that, and it doesn’t work.” That’s why that’s not what I’m going to say, lol. If you’re nice and good you can get...
The Marriage Challenge Didn’t Work? It’s Not Your Fault
This is how the quick-fix-er marriage gurus get you: They assure you that you can fix things in 8 weeks or 30 days or <gasp!> just 7 days. Well, of course you want things fixed. And it doesn’t work. Well, it works for some people. Here’s who it works for: People...
Discover Your Hidden Strengths
Surprising as it may seem, most people don't really know who they are at the core. Oh, they know their habits, like getting offended easily or being judgmental or not liking themselves. But that's not who they are. This video explores 3 characteristics of a person's...
How To Forgive Your Partner For Past Affairs
What if you had the ability to MINDREAD your partner? What would that be like? --You’d feel SAFE, wouldn’t you? Because you’d know – 1. why they had the affairs 2. what needs/hurts/trauma they were running away from 3. how sincere they are that they won’t do it again...
Watch! How Can I Be Kind To Myself When My Spouse Isn’t Kind To Me? (ep 5)
When you've been beaten down, you start to feel like maybe the mean things that your partner says must be true. They aren't! Learn the power of how to be kind to yourself again along with the power of being present to your own protectors while hearing your partner's...