by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 28, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
I was on the phone with a woman who was desperate to fix her marriage and my heart broke for her. But I knew I would not be helping her. She started off telling me the names her husband called her and then I was thinking, “I work with verbal abusers; no...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 24, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Someone named Mr. Edwards asked me if his wife was “ready” for marital therapy because he didn’t think she was. The question puzzled me. Why does anyone have to be ready? You just do it. Like the time, when I was about 8 years old in summer camp and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 21, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
You know the story of the guy who was abusive, had a temper, was controlling and demanding, got divorced because of all that and managed to keep it together long enough for a new girl to fall in love with him; and of course she never saw a hint of all the rotten...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 17, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
The Women Are Leaving – In Droves This guy was pretty unhappy. He said he didn’t want to think about the possibility that his wife would end the marriage. He spoke with great pain about that fight they had in which the horrible “D” word was...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 14, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
When it comes to cars, I don’t care if I’m driving a Lexus, a Honda, or a Farari. I really wouldn’t. Yes, I notice the bumps in the road with the regular, run-of-the-mill car, but only for the first few minutes. Then my mind goes somewhere else and...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 10, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Suzie was crying as she related to me all her attempts to convince her therapist that she was not ready for divorce. Lazy therapist: But he is a cheater. How will you ever trust him again? Suzie: I get it. I don’t know. That’s what you’re for. To...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 7, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Hey Spouse, It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away, right? Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn’t have free choice. So why did they convince themselves in...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Jan 3, 2020 | Marriage and Relationships
Here are 4 categories of people running away from themselves: People addicted to one thing or another – alcohol, drugs, gambling, porn, shopping, working exceptionally long hours, explosive anger/rages, lying, or cheating. Schizophrenics, Narcissists. Those who...
by DrDeb Hirschhorn | Dec 31, 2019 | Marriage and Relationships
Did you ever hear the story of the two frogs? One was thrown into a pot of boiling water and he jumped out very quickly – and was saved. The other frog was put in an empty pot. Shortly, some nice, cool, refreshing water was being filled up in the pot and the...
