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Normal behavior depends on your background and history. Normal really means the behavior we expect. But don't judge your partner because you wouldn't do something; what's normal for you may not be normal for someone else because your background affected you one way and your partner another way. Get FREE advice at http://drdeb.com or sign up for Video Tips of the Week at...

second of a 3 part series on Marriage and Depression: How can the depressed person work on himself to get out of depression.

Marlene had to admit that a lot of her problem was born of a sense of childish entitlement which went something like this: “I’ve had an awful life, so I’m entitled to cut corners here and there to make it easier on myself.” The result was that she had bounced a check. And this wasn’t, unfortunately, the first time. “If I’m going to turn my life around and ditch this foolish anxiety problem, then I simply have to force myself to do my...

Marlene is a perfect example of a person who thought she had an anxious personality. Before learning the steps above, she understood why she had it, but that didn’t change anything. (It usually doesn’t.) Her father abandoned the family when she was young and then her mother had to work, leaving her in charge of younger siblings. She was responsible, but that was an awfully heavy burden to place on a child. It was scary. Little kids do not...