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Hi! I’m Dr. Deb.

I believe in marriage. In spite of challenges, it is possible to completely transform troubled ones into marriages of true friendship, trust, respect, and passion.

The secret is healing.

Check out the Dr. Deb page to see why I am confident I can help you. Not to mention my years of experience–as a therapist (who still sees people) and in Life (married, four good children, 12 happy and well-behaved grandchildren)!

ABUSE: Learn what it is, how to end it, and how to heal
Learn how to recognize ABUSE, empower yourself to handle it well, and to heal from it.
MARRIAGE and RELATIONSHIPS: Learn how to recognize when it's in trouble--and to fix it.
Some relationships can be fixed by changing behavior, some by changing attitudes, and some by changing how you feel. The tools are here in MARRIAGE and RELATIONSHIPS.
MENTAL HEALTH: Overcome a painful history and rise above what bothers you now.
See the MENTAL HEALTH part of the blog for ADD/ADHD, addictions, anxiety, depression the problems with diagnosis, hypnosis, mental illness, narcissism, stress, therapy approaches, and much more.

Go to the special section of this category for the power of your BRAIN and MIND that you can tap into right away.

PARENTING: You can have great kids who are happy, too!
Be the best parent you can be by learning the tricks of PARENTING that great parents already know and use every day.

I just read your article on loving someone who hurt you. I kind of stumbled on it really.
I was struck by two things….firstly..you seem to understand my husband so easily. Not an easy feat for me these days. But we soldier on (Its not a grim situation at all) and I thank you for equipping me with some amazing insights.

Secondly, that article is from 2011 and its still prompting a response from people. People still resonate with it..people still randomly ask for help from you even though you are a stranger..and its this second thing I needed to write to you about. It just overwhelms me to see how people hurt so much and go through so much..but I needed to thank you for the work you do. Just being there means people have someone to tell ,..and there is some solace at t imes in just telling someone even if they cant help you. Ive not heard of you till today and unless you find yourself trudging through our little blink-and-you-miss-it village in England, you and I probably won’t meet but I wanted to say thank you so much Doctor for the work you do. The help you have been ..the ear to listen. Its a profession I suppose..but you went and did it and you are there.

I read those comments and I want to cry .I feel so badly for people hurting in relationships but that doesn’t help anyone . What you do does help.

I wish you every success and I hope you never feel worn down by it. It matters so much and for everyone you have been there for and have helped…whether they had to pay for therapy or not the point is you were there and you have made a difference.

Thank you for writing. Please don’t stop. --England

My wife and I are together, and expect to be forever. We’ve learned to deal with one another and learned to identify and control our bad habits. I’ve learned why I was an abusive man and how to not be an abuser.

Sometimes I see my old habits in others and feel empathy and compassion – and wish they had the advantages of a hundred or so sessions with Dr. Deb.

Thanks so much for your help. Our time together was an investment worth more than anything I’ve ever done in my life. I believe that I owe my life to your help – certainly, I didn’t realize that I could be this happy again. --Florida

I am enjoying your book tremendously and benefiting greatly – taking it slow as there is a lot of pertinent information and insight. It explained a lot of what I went through and am coming out of with my husband’s verbal abuse towards me (from his childhood abuses, etc…) and what I am currently going through as a parent.
This was the first time I’ve seen these concepts explained so well and succinctly.
Anyway… I was concerned the book was more expensive than it was worth…but it has been worth it…I’m feeling more confident that I can change the way I’m behaving towards my kids… I grew up in a “yelling” house with little praise, moderate criticism (authoritative/parochial upbringing). I had started off being the kind of parent I wanted to be until the marriage was too stressed.
Your book is helping me develop tools to bring peace to my kids and show them the love that got buried in all the adult problems. --Connecticut